It's All In My Head - Remixed & Remastered

Hey Sexies!
Here's a remixed and remastered version of "It's All In My Head."



Rock Hard! Rock Sexy!
-The Deacon

Your Fishnet Stocking Stuffer - "The Dirty Mix" 5-song EP!

Your Fishnet Stocking Stuffer - "The Dirty Mix" 5-song EP!

Rock Hard! Rock Sexy!
-The Deacon

Rockin' The Trash Bar This Friday!

What Songs to Cover?

Hey Sexies!
Here's the (wacky) list of songs we could possibly cover.  What do you think? Add to the list below.

- Take Your Time (Do It Right) - S.O.S Band
- Mirror In The Bathroom - The Specials
- Uprising - Muse



Rock Hard! Rock Sexy!
- The Deacon

It's All In My Head - Lyrics Blog

Hey Sexies,
So I thought I'd break down the meaning behind the lyrics to our 10th single of the decade "It's All In My Head." It's really about the fear we create in our own heads, but read on for a line-by-line analysis.


It's All In My Head
(The Deacon)
© 2010

I'm feeling empty inside
inside my head
His mind is numb, no happiness, no fun…

My heart feels like there's a void
but I'm not dead
If there were a physical hole in his heart, he'd cease to exist in his physical body. Yet, we're full of spiritual holes and emotional holes and are still kicking around. Each of the 3 realms follow different rules, yet all 3 are affected by the others.

Fifteen-hundred miles in
Animal skin
Fifteen-hundred miles in
Original sin
Traveling deep within the mind, we find we're simply animals. And in that same space, we're uniquely human; able to create our own fate – for good or bad.

It's all in my head
Ultimately, we are the creators of our fears.

I place the blame upon you
sho' 'nuf not me
He blame's everyone else for his problems and refuses to take responsibility for his own actions.

We'll have a drink on the floor
then I must be
He can still hang out with his friends and pretend everything is all right. Until...

Traveling down that blood road
I use to heal
Traveling down that blood road
It's how I feel
He's back in his own negative space because it feels comforting.

It's all in my head
Most of our fears aren't based in reality; we conjure up our own demons.

I walk alone in the crowd
and they don't see
how really scared I'm am
but that can't be
He pretends to be confident and really believes that no one see through his façade.

Black hole sucking me in
event horizon
Black hole sucking me in
I'll dive right in
This is a metaphor for what happens in your own mind, there's a different perception from different angles.

(Geek alert: if you're not into science, just skip this…)

There is a debate about the properties of black holes amongst the world's two thought leaders in physics: Stephen Hawking and Leonard Susskind. I'm not taking sides on this one, but I'm using Susskind's perception as the metaphor. He believes that at the event horizon (the edge of a black hole) two, separate, events happen simultaneously depending on your vantage point. The first event being if you were looking from outside of the black hole, you would see a person for example freeze at the event horizon. The second event being if you were looking at the person from the event horizon, that person would seem like they were falling into the black hole. It's a theory, we don't know if it's true or not.


It's all in my head

I'm Losing Myself Again

Hey Sexies!
For your pleasure... our 7th single of the year, "I'm Losing Myself Again."



Rock Hard! Rock Sexy!
- The Deacon
www.MamasDirtyLilSecret.com

More Vaca Photos from PR

Hey Sexy,
Here are more photos from my time in PR this summer.

It rained almost every day, but it was still beautiful. None of the rain lasted really long. It was all over within a 1/2 hour. Then it went back to...

...this.

 I love the view from the roof of the hotel.

There was a crowd around the cart just a few minutes before this shot was taken. The owner of the cart needed to go get change, so everyone went back to their beach chairs to wait. Hence the lone ice cart which read "Cocanut, [sic], Rainbow, Passion Fruit. Very Good."

On the corner of Calle de San Justo (San Justo Street) in Old San Juan


I totally forgot what street this is, maybe Calle San Francisco...

A wooden crucifix on a door in Old San Juan

Looking down Calle de San Justo toward the bay

At night in the ally between Calle Fortaleza and San Francisco.

Rock Hard! Rock Sexy!
-The Deacon

Savior - 6th Single of the Decade!

On the Beach in Puerto Rico

The Deacon chillin' in San Juan...

Cray Cray - 5th Single of the Decade

Ebony Bones

Hey Sexies!
One of my new favorite shows to see - Ebony Bones! I caught her at the @brcnewyork 25th anniversary @summerstage.




Rock Hard! Rock Sexy!
- The Deacon
TheDeacon@MamasDirtyLilSecret.com

Come On, Shake Your Body Baby, Do The Conga

I reuinted with my good friend the conga this weekend. This is what transpired of our reunion. A percussion menage a trois of the conga, clave and bass drum with me playing all 3 simultaneously. Shake it, baby, shake it!!



Rock Hard! Rock Sexy!
- Damn

Girl on Grrl Action

"i tried to get her back 

but she said no

said she hated that i 

cheated and cheated 

and told me so

i tried to get her back 

she still said no

said that life with you 
was better somehow

and told me so

she only wants you

she only wants you my friend

you're not half the man i am

still she only wants you"

this is loosely based on a true series of events. . .

during a brief encounter with a temporary "dance"

partner, i got entangled with her ex. the relationship was

definitely not serious, but her ex certainly was.

one day this ex corners me in a club.

she then looks at me in a mocking indifference

and says "i don't know what the hell you're doing to her

but she only wants you. " and as she grabbed her

crouch and rolled her eyes, it was clear she felt

she lost the best thing she ever had. and to me of all people!!!

well, i took that gem of a moment in lesbian drama 

and turned it around putting myself in her shoes.

or adidas as it were. and the end result - 

"She Only Wants You". 

the pulsing tension of the walking bass line represents the
ex writhing with jealousy at the new thing getting busy with la femme du jour. 

the staccato bass during the verses represent the clinched teeth through
which the ex communicates her seething yet controlled anger.

since the relationship was purely sexual, i envisioned the

ex losing her mind and hoping of a better day:

(bridge)

"she will be mine, some day,

i will win her back some way,

she will be mine, it's just a matter of time

we'll be sitting back 
sweet sixty-nine

but now i consign. . . 

i know how much she fucks 

when she only wants you.

know what, whatever."

Rock Hard. Rock Sexy.

Damn Grrl

Dirty Li'l Elements of Style

As the Mama's Dirty Li'l Song production team continues to churn out soul punk songs for your listening pleasure, see if you can guess who wrote what.

The Deacon travels internally exploring feelings of doubt and confusion with no resolution in sight (ie. "Why Don't You Love Me", "When I Sell My Soul", "Who Am I" ).

Damn channels rock's golden bravado of blatant sexuality and love gone bad (ie. "I, Confess", "She Only Wants You" and the fist-pumping chorus "Hell 2the No").

As the months progress, fans are encouraged to place their bets and guess:
     "Which of the Two Wrote That Song for You"!!!

Good luck and tell us why you think who wrote what.

Rock Hard. Rock Sexy.

She Only Wants You - 4th Single of the Year!

Mama's Dirty Li'l Guitar Picks

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Featuring the song "She Only Wants You"

It's "The Decade of Doin'!"

Mama has anointed this decade the "Decade of Doin'!" She says your dreams are fully formed galaxies, your path ahead is lit by stars, and now it's time to take action and do your thang!

3rd Single of the Year - Who Am I?

Hey Sexies! Our 3rd single of the year is here, "Who Am I?"

so he admits he's gay. . . but who really thought
Ricky Martin was straight??

Erin Go Bragh -- put on some Drop Kick Murphys & mosh out loud!

New Single: "Hell-To-The-No" Feat. Kitana [Explicit]

Hey Sexy People!
Our second single of the decade features the soultastic Kitana of Sister Anne!

Rock Hard! Rock Sexy!
- The Deacon
TheDeacon@MamasDirtyLilSecret.com

Week 9: MSi9W - Ready For the Onslaught of Press

Hey Sexy People!

It's the last week (#9) of the Music Success In Nine Weeks blogging contest held by Ariel Publicity Cyber PR!

So, the last chapter... I had to get our online press kit (or EPK) in shape for the onslaught of press.  It needs work, but all of the elements for a writer to quickly get the info on MDLS they need. The bio and pitch were there, but I did have to add some hi-res photos and MP3s.

A quick recap of our successes: got more folks out to our last show; was played on a couple of podcasts (Dancing Mattress Productions & Michael Angel's Cosmic Grab Bag #135); landed an interview on Sierra's I Write. You Should Read. blog; met some cool new artists via this contest; got some great merch ideas!; and the best... having much more focus on generating income so I can live off of the music!

This is far from over, but the past 9 weeks - OK, so maybe it was 11... - has been a cool-ass journey towards success. You always need people to push you forward and I want to give a sincere thanks to @cyberpr and @carlalynnehall for playing along. ;)

Yeah, Madison Square Garden, here we come!


Rock Hard! Rock Sexy!
- The Deacon


Purchase "In Your Mouth"
CD Baby
http://www.cdbaby.com/cd/mamasdls

iTunes
http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/in-your-mouth/id339466720


©2010 Mama's Dirty Li'l Secret

Week 8: MSi9W - Creating our Funnel or More Ass For Cash

Hey My Sexies!

It's week 8 of the Music Success In Nine Weeks blogging contest held by Ariel Publicity Cyber PR!

How do we make a living in this business?  Sell stuff.  Sell a lot of stuff.

Yeah, it sounds simple, but finding the right items that your audience wants to buy is fucking difficult.  I look to Gene Simmons as a master merch-mizer!  He'll even tell you that if he can slap a KISS logo on it, he'll make it available to buy.  Now we may not go as far as Gene, but our name lends itself to some great marketing.

 Of course, we'll have our CDs (get "In Your Mouth" here), our Mama's Dirty Li'l T-Shirts (available Spring '10!), and - soon come - Mama's Dirty Li'l Condoms with our tag line "Rock Hard! Rock Sexy!" Yeah, that's hot...

What can we offer down the line? When the time is right...

"Mama's Dirty Li'l Secret Society" - The official fan club.
"Mama's Dirty Li'l Thong" - with our logo on the front. ;)
"Mama's Dirty Li'l Hot Tub Club" - This may be an annual summer event. Yup, summer.
"Mama's Dirty Li'l Body Painting Party" - Another annual event. Summer.

"Mama's Dirty Li'l Whores" - I think we'll dub our fans this name. Because, like us, they're not slutty, but they are a little whorish.

Rock Hard! Rock Sexy!
- The Deacon


Purchase "In Your Mouth"
CD Baby
http://www.cdbaby.com/cd/mamasdls

iTunes
http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/in-your-mouth/id339466720


©2010 Mama's Dirty Li'l Secret

Week 7: MSi9W - Talkin' To MoFo's

Hey My Sexies!

It's week 7 of the Music Success In Nine Weeks blogging contest held by Ariel Publicity Cyber PR.

There is truly an art to networking.  The truth, that most people don't want to admit or accept, is that most people only care about themselves.  So, how do we turn that seemingly negative into a positive?  Simply let them talk about themselves and they'll love you forever.

Case in point: A bunch of us were in the hot tub and I asked each of the ladies a simple question about themselves and they just talked... and giggled... and talked... and giggled... I sat back, sipped on my drink, and through in a few "um hums," and "really?"  Those ladies still talk about how much fun they had that night.  I barely said a word.  Rock Sexy.

So, what about the drunk-ass guy at the club?  Ok, having to listen to him rant about the merits of the DIY movement for 15 minutes is a small price to pay for him supporting my career.  Hey, I might learn something.  Learning is cool.

Another way I look at it is that they've listened to me sing/say whatever the fuck I want for 45 minutes during a show, so I can give them a few minutes to talk back.


Another thanks to MSi9W for getting us played in the UK!  The simple task of putting our new single, "I Confess," on the Podsafe Network got it played on Dalecast - a UK-based podcast. Spreading the Sexy around the world, y'all


Rock Hard! Rock Sexy!
- The Deacon


Purchase "In Your Mouth"
CD Baby
http://www.cdbaby.com/cd/mamasdls

iTunes
http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/in-your-mouth/id339466720

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Twitter.com/MDLStweet

MySpace.com/MamasDirtyLilSecret

Facebook.com/MamasDirtyLilSecret

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I Confess Video

Hey Sexies!
Here's the new hotness!



Rock Hard! Rock Sexy!
- MDLS


Purchase "In Your Mouth"
CD Baby
http://www.cdbaby.com/cd/mamasdls

iTunes
http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/in-your-mouth/id339466720


Mama's Dirty Li'l Secret
Twitter.com/MDLStweet

MySpace.com/MamasDirtyLilSecret

Facebook.com/MamasDirtyLilSecret

AfroPunk.com/profile/MamasDirtyLilSecret

YouTube.com/user/mdlstrio

©2010 Mama's Dirty Li'l Secret

it's good to give. . . but best not be taken!!

Week 6: Music Success in Nine Weeks - How Big Is Yours?

Hey Sexy People!

Before we jump in... I was having a hard time writing this post because I couldn't figure out how to explain this chapter.  Then it hit me - I hadn't done any of the tasks yet!  ...be right back...

It's week 6 of the Music Success In Nine Weeks blogging contest held by Ariel Publicity Cyber PR.

The size of your email list = the size of your income.

Damn. Um, um.

Another task you must do all of the time! I'm not saying that it's a bad thing nor that I'm not willing to do the task; it's just fucking boring. ;) Ariel gives her take on building our fan list so we can make some money.  I'm with that.

In addition to constantly thinking of who we can add to our list, I scheduled time once a week to sit down and build our email list.  I also had to create, what I'm calling, a "ready-letter" - an email ready to go to potential readers ("form letter" just sounds so impersonal).

Once we get up to a substantially-sized email list, we'll look to list trade with other bands and begin our text message list.  Yeah, texting is hot.

And, of course, we have the requisite "free MP3 when you sign up." 

However, I'm starting to question the effectiveness of this.  In theory, I totally believe it's a good idea.  But, in practice, I'm not finding it effective.  I say this because of the value perception.  What's the value of the MP3 if they don't know you?  I see these offers all over and not once have I signed up for a band's email list because of a free MP3.  I sign up because I like the band.  And if I really like the band, I'm happy to buy their music.

At this level, folks sign up after they see our show or when we get them while we're out networking or promoting.  I continually ask "what value are we providing to this person's life?"  If their perception is nothing, then it won't matter that it costs nothing.

It's like what happens when a band lets folks pay whatever they want for a CD at a show.  They usually end up making more money than if they asked for a set price.  It's about perceived value.  If one values something, they don't mind paying.

Thanks MSi9W!


Rock Hard! Rock Sexy!
- MDLS


Purchase "In Your Mouth"
CD Baby
http://www.cdbaby.com/cd/mamasdls

iTunes
http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/in-your-mouth/id339466720


Mama's Dirty Li'l Secret
Twitter.com/MDLStweet

MySpace.com/MamasDirtyLilSecret

Facebook.com/MamasDirtyLilSecret

AfroPunk.com/profile/MamasDirtyLilSecret

YouTube.com/user/mdlstrio

©2010 Mama's Dirty Li'l Secret

"I Confess" Tease

I know you're kinky; wishing for more; you scratch my back; and I'll lick yours.

Week 5: Music Success in Nine Weeks - Your Newsletter

Hey Sexy People!

It's week 5 of the Music Success In Nine Weeks blogging contest held by Ariel Publicity Cyber PR. Ariel explains that artists need to think of themselves as a commodity or product.  Unlike actors, musicians have a hard time thinking of themselves this way.  Fortunately, we have no qualms selling ourselves.  We're not slutty, but we're definitely pretty Whorish. Most musicians I know are just like sluts.  Nothing wrong with that per se; they put a lot of work into doing what they love, they're just not getting much in return.


So, what to do when you're not gigging?  You still have to communicate with your fans.  Consistently.  I started reading MSi9W before we released "In Your Mouth," so it was clear that we had to start talking with folks before it came out.  What made that clear was Ariel's example of how bands only send out their newsletter when they want to sell me something - a show, a new album, whatever.  The more I thought about it, the more I realized "yeah, I'm not their fucking fuck buddy..."

While most bands/artists send out their newsletters sporadically, I decided to do ours weekly!  Yeah, that's right, damnit!  It's been going out every Tuesday for the past 7 months.  I keep it quick and sexy and the response has been great.  Actual fan quotes:

"This is the best newsletter ever!" 

"I actually look forward to getting your newsletter every Tuesday!"

"Oh, my!"

Greeting, Guts & Getting.  That's the format Ariel suggests and it's perfect for me, being a short-form writer (although, these posts take way longer that I expect...)  I do one short graph for each section and try to be entertaining and, of course, sexy.  We haven't quite reached a thousand names on our list, so we're here continually building and providing some value in folks lives.

In conjunction with other techniques implemented from MSi9W, the other effect of communicating consistently is that we had more people at our last show!  So, yes, this stuff works.  Now that we know how to get them to the show, we have to keep them there.  That's were Tom Jackson picks up.

Another direct result of following MSi9W!

Ok, now you can sign up...

Sign up for our weekly quickie
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"They All Want Something"
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Name: Email: We don't sell your email. You can unsubscribe at any time.

Rock Hard! Rock Sexy!
- MDLS


Purchase "In Your Mouth"
CD Baby
http://www.cdbaby.com/cd/mamasdls

iTunes
http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/in-your-mouth/id339466720


Mama's Dirty Li'l Secret
Twitter.com/MDLStweet

MySpace.com/MamasDirtyLilSecret

Facebook.com/MamasDirtyLilSecret

AfroPunk.com/profile/MamasDirtyLilSecret

YouTube.com/user/mdlstrio

©2010 Mama's Dirty Li'l Secret

"My Skills Induce Happiness"

"Is it a crime to say I’m the best? My skills induce happiness" From our new single, "I Confess," coming this month!

Week 4: Music Success in Nine Weeks - Web 2.0

Hey Sexy People!

It's week 4 of the Music Success In Nine Weeks blogging contest held by Ariel Publicity Cyber PR. In this chapter, it's all Web 2.0, or social. You need to be where your fans are.  So, of course, we have to maintain our connections with our fans via several communities - and be active in each. Or, as Ariel says, it's like watering our garden of Rock Sexiness.

Ariel gives her essential list of the most popular social tools to be on, and also really finding the communities that work for your genre. There's no need for us hanging out in the GOP forums.  Although... that may garner some good material...

It took about 6 months of consistency to build up to where we are now.  Our MySpace page was the primary point of interaction, then we joined the other communities as we were able to manage each one.  We began with Twitter and Facebook, then added Afro-Punk and our Blog (you're here).  It's a lot of trial and error before we found the right mix.

The two things that really worked for us was joining the Podsafe Music Network and commenting on blogs.  The first got our song "Vampires In The Sun" on Dancing Mattress Productions's podcast.  The second was simply being a part of the Afro-Punk community, we landed an interview on Sierra's I Write. You Should Read. blog. This was a direct result of following MSi9W - thanks y'all!

The only place we're not on yet is Flickr.  However, we shooting new photos next week, so we'll start then...


Rock Hard! Rock Sexy!
- MDLS


Purchase "In Your Mouth"
CD Baby
http://www.cdbaby.com/cd/mamasdls

iTunes
http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/in-your-mouth/id339466720


Mama's Dirty Li'l Secret
Twitter.com/MDLStweet

MySpace.com/MamasDirtyLilSecret

Facebook.com/MamasDirtyLilSecret

AfroPunk.com/profile/MamasDirtyLilSecret

YouTube.com/user/mdlstrio

©2010 Mama's Dirty Li'l Secret

i believe only a drag queen can show a diesel dyke how to be a girlie-girl.

Mama's Universe

Take a peek at rare shots of Mama's Universe http://ning.it/5hNXh8

Week 3: Music Success in Nine Weeks - Optimizing Your Website

Hey Sexy People!

It's week 3 of the Music Success In Nine Weeks blogging contest held by Ariel Publicity Cyber PR. In this chapter, you have make sure your site is optimized to better communicate with your fans.

MDLS web sie optimized: check.

Our pitch is present, our site loads quickly and we have no animated intro.  The music player on the home page is Flash, but it's small, so it comes in quickly.  There's a random image display on the home page, so every time you come back, you'll see a different image.  It gives the feeling of the site being active.  Fortunately, we have a relationship with a professional Web team, so our site was already in good shape (it's also SEO-friendly).

We have a consistent look throughout all of our spaces and we've customized where we can.  You can't do much with Facebook and just a little with AfroPunk, but you know it's MDLS!  Our colors are White & Black (a white base with black accents) which we carry through down to our instruments!

The one thing we needed to add was a free MP3 when fans sign up for Mama's Dirty Li'l Newsletter.  The goal with that is to change the song every month... maybe.


Rock Hard! Rock Sexy!
- MDLS


Purchase "In Your Mouth"
CD Baby
http://www.cdbaby.com/cd/mamasdls

iTunes
http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/in-your-mouth/id339466720


Mama's Dirty Li'l Secret
Twitter.com/MDLStweet

MySpace.com/MamasDirtyLilSecret

Facebook.com/people/Mamas_Dls/559468962

AfroPunk.com/profile/MamasDirtyLilSecret

YouTube.com/user/mdlstrio

©2010 Mama's Dirty Li'l Secret

Traveling Through the Dirty Li'l Secret Tunnels

During the cold, we travel via our Secret tunnels to keep in the Hotness!

"I Confess" Recording

We're in the studio tonight recording drums for this month's tune "I Confess!"

Naked Workout Partner

Find a workout partner you can workout naked with and we bet that you won't skip a session.

Rock-Sexy Bassist Needed

MDLS is looking for a bass player to complete the trinity! If you are, or know, a rock-sexy bassist, come join our soul-punk show. (Bklyn)

Week 2: Music Success in Nine Weeks - Our Pitch

Hey Sexy People!

This is week 2 of the MSi9W blogging contest!  The assignment is basically to create an answer to the question "what do you sound like?"  We gotta give folks some sort of context so they kind of understand our sound without having heard the Rock Sexy sound of Mama's Dirty Li'l Secret.  Yes, of course, their life will change forever once they've entered into the world of Mama's Dirty Li'l Secret.  (They're just not privy to that fact yet.)

We've actually been using our pitch for a while.  But it did take a while to come up with the right one.  The long version is "the bastard lovechild born of the torrid affair between Soul and Punk."  Descriptive?  It looks good in print, but when talk with folks we simply use "Soul punk" because folks seem to think they understand right away.  The usual response is "oh, yeah, I get it, that's cool!"  Well, that's exactly what the fuck we want.

As an example of the branding we've established, our current postcard (4x6) is to the left. <----  The front of the card simply has our name, a sexy photo, and our pitch.

...and the back of card has our name, urls and our tag line.  We place a sticker in the extra space for whatever we're promoting at the time: "In Your Mouth" download, show date, etc. (see second example below).

Let us know what you think.  Is it sexy enough for you?

Rock Hard! Rock Sexy!
- MDLS

Let's meet for a quickie

Let's meet for a quickie. Sign up for our rock sexy newsletter and we'll hook up every Tuesday here: http://bit.ly/6OysKh

Prince and Lenny Kravitz - "Fly Away"

You just have to love Prince in his sexy-ass, blue, full-body suit and matching guitar!

Lookin' for another great sonic 8ball. . .

my all time go to favorite concoction is that of Slayer & Sade. pulse rushes, fists clenched, (sport the war) to sweet, beauty, eternal love caress. totally addictive.

Happy Birthday to Damn

A rock sexy Happy Birthday to Damn on the first day of the year! Here's to the baddest of the bad-asses!